I believe that people can change. I need to believe it because I need to believe that I can change for the better. President Monson once shared the story of Clinton Duffy, who was a prison warden in the mid-twentieth century. Warden Duffy was known for his efforts to rehabilitate his prisoners. On one occasion an individual told him, "You should know that leopards don''t change their spots!" Warden Duffy's reply was, "You should know I don't work with leopards. I work with men, and men change every day."
Sometimes this effort to change takes work. Alma the Younger describes his process of changing as "wading through tribulation" and his repentance as "nigh unto death." (Mosiah 27:28) However this process is worth it. After his repentance Alma the Younger said that "there can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was my joy" (Alma 36:21)
To those that are seeking to change know that you can. It may take work and you may stumble, and if you do, don't give up. I know that with patience and faith you will be able to change.
To those whose loved ones have wandered I feel as if Alma the Elder helps to provide us with an example of what to do when he prayed for his son. (See: Mosiah 27:14) In my own . life I have seen people who provide examples of what we should do. Bishops and priesthood leaders who continue to support the members of their wards and congregations. Missionaries who continue to help their investigators. People who have loved ones who are working on changing and continue to support them when they struggle. I have seen parents whose children have wandered and continue to. They have provided me an example of calling the wayward child to repentance but still trying to love them and not giving up on them even though it may be discouraging. As they have done so I have seen people change for the better. Sometimes very slowly, but there has been positive change.
In closing, Elder Bednar once taught:
"Acting in accordance with the teachings of the Savior invites spiritual power into our lives—power to hear and heed, power to discern, and power to persevere. Devoted discipleship is the best and only answer to every question and challenge." (Faithful Parents and Wayward Children: Sustaining Hope While Overcoming Misunderstanding)
I know that as we continue to be loving disciples of Jesus Christ we will be able to best help ourselves and our loved ones.













